Parenting is a challenging and rewarding thing to do. Parents must raise their children to be successful, compassionate and balanced. In today’s fast-paced world and all the pressure of technology and the social pressure around us, emotional intelligence is one of the most significant gifts we can give kids. Emotional intelligence is the gift that helps your kids navigate through complicated feelings, and it helps them succeed in every aspect of life.
Emotional intelligence (EQ) refers to the ability to identify what you are feeling and exercise self-control in the case of overwhelming emotions and the ability to recognize what another person is feeling and share that same emotion. Daniel Goleman introduced this term, which is now essential to understanding how a child develops. EQ is not how intelligent a child is academically but how they manage their feelings, communicate well with others, and respond to challenges with resilience, which is different from cognitive intelligence (IQ).
Research has shown that emotionally intelligent kids are likelier to have better mental health, demonstrate better social skills, and do better in school and life. This helps them deal with stress, setbacks, and conflict, which means more fellow workers are less likely to rely on the boss’ cane. You know, all that is helping contribute to overall happiness and well-being. However, as parents, it’s important to remember that we have a massive hand in EQ (or emotional intelligence) skills from the beginning, even in toddlers!
Regarding emotional intelligence, you’re your child’s first teacher as a parent. Part of what you are teaching them is how to respond to their emotions, how you model your own emotions, and the conversations you are having about emotions that will help them understand how the expression and regulation of emotions work. The thing with children is that they’re always watching how their parents behave and react, and if you can create for your child that emotional intelligence is valued, it’s good.
Begin by understanding your child’s emotional world. Listen to their moods, feel what they feel, and make sure you validate them. Even if you disagree with their emotions, acknowledging their feelings tells them that how they think matters. This can be anything, such as if your child is upset because they have lost a toy; instead of just brushing it off like “Don’t worry, no big deal, it’s not that important”, you could say, for instance, “I can see you don’t want to lose this.” It’s okay to feel that way." By validating how they feel, they know they're feeling something pretty big, that it's okay for them to feel deeply, and how to handle the feelings.
One of the best ways to raise emotional intelligence in your kids is by modelling emotional regulation yourself. Children will learn by example—by watching, and — they'll learn to do the same as their parents. And if you can’t regulate these emotions, chances are your kid will, too. If you see yourself navigating stressful situations calmly, they are more likely to adopt that strategy.
Let’s use frustration and anger as an example: if, for example, you are feeling frustrated and you usually lash out at people, try deep breathing and tell people why you are frustrated with them. You might think, "I’m upset right now, but if I get some deep breaths, I’ll be able to calm down." Not only does this teach them emotional regulation, but it also gives them a verbal outlet to say how they’re feeling and work with it.
Empathy is an essential component of emotional intelligence—that is, the ability to empathize is an important part of being emotional. We need to show them how to empathize and also make sure they practice it themselves. We expect to show them how to listen to others attentively, validate others’ feelings, and respond with kindness and understanding to something they hear or read.
It’s about solving the problem when your child is upset and being there to listen. Make them express themselves to the best of their judgment. Not only will this add to their emotional intelligence, but it will also help them speak confidently and credibly about their feelings. On top of that, teaching children to practice empathy when interacting with friends and family teaches them that their actions affect other people.
One of the first instances of emotional intelligence development is teaching children how to perceive and define emotions. While many young children do not have as expressive a vocabulary for expressing their feelings, this is quite widespread. Helping them identify different emotions can make all the difference in their ability to self-regulate those feelings.
First, you can begin with the primary emotion words like "happy," " sad," "angry," and "excited" and go from there to the more complicated emotions, such as 'frustrated,' 'nervous,' or 'disappointed.' For example, if your child is angry, instead of simply telling them to calm down, help them identify what’s making them feel that way: You’re angry because you couldn’t continue playing. Feeling angry when something you love ends is okay, though. How can we handle it?”
Raising resilient kids teaches them how to solve problems and get ahead of issues that come their way head-on. Emotionally intelligent children aren’t protected from their challenges and setbacks but tend to bounce back better. Such people can see challenges as chances to grow and learn to improve their fear and emotional strength.
Talk to your child about how you would handle difficult situations and involve them in these discussions. If they cannot solve an issue of a disagreement at school, how will they try to put it right? Talk to them about finding a solution by considering the other person’s point of view. By giving them the tools to decide for themselves, you help them develop the confidence to handle challenging situations correctly.
You also develop your child’s resilience through the experiences they go through. They need to fail and learn how to cope with failure and, therefore, fail more. Don’t rush in to help fix a problem, but let your child use challenges to push through and provide guidance when needed. When tackling issues independently, they become more self-confident and emotionally resilient.
Deep emotional intelligence requires kids to feel safe to express their emotions. It is about creating a space where the feelings are heard and respected. It doesn’t just mean validating your child’s feelings; it also requires family members to open up to one another. Take time to allow conversations with the family and its members amongst them; parents shared their emotions and thoughts as well.
Of course, we also need to establish consistent boundaries and rules without showing warmth and support. They need structure and guidance, but they also need to know they will be listened to when they feel their emotions. This balance means they feel secure and they hear.
One of the best gifts for your kids is teaching them how to be emotionally intelligent. Your child’s future success starts with helping them be emotionally aware, empathetic, solid and resilient, living on the idea that they can solve things. You will remember that it is a very active and slow process that requires patience, consistency and love. Focusing on your reaction when an emotion arises in your body and giving your child the means to express that emotion effectively teaches your child how to function in this quickly changing and complicated world.
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